The Gift of Failure – Parents Learning to Let Go So Their Kids Can Succeed

Speaker Jessica Lahey fielding questions; photo courtesy of

What’s the best way to motivate students to own their education, learn deeply and durably, and develop resilience? Hint: it’s not by overparenting.

Research has shown that the key to all these things is self-motivation. On September 13 at Boulder Country Day School, author and speaker Jessica Lahey who wrote the New York Times best-selling book, The Gift of Failure, will summarize the current research on autonomy-supportive parenting and teaching, competence, rewards, praise, and failure.

Failure used to be an inevitable. Nowadays overprotective helicopter parents deprive their children of this valuable tool. Based on her own experiences of what she did wrong with her students and children, Ms. Lahey will share how parents can learn to allow their children to experience the disappointments and frustrations that occur from life’s inevitable problems so that they can grow up to be successful, resilient, and self-reliant adults.

Hear Ms. Lahey’s important lessons on Wednesday, September 13 from 6:30pm – 8:00pm at Boulder Country Day School, 4820 Nautilus Court North, Boulder, CO 80301. The event is free and open to the public.

Speaker Jessica Lahey; photo courtesy of


Susan Cain, author of QUIET: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, says, “It’s hard to overstate the importance of this book. The Gift of Failure is beautifully written; it’s deeply researched; but most of all it’s the one book we all need to read if we want to instill the next generation with confidence and joy.”


About Jessica Lahey:
Jessica Lahey ( writes about education, parenting, and child welfare for The Atlantic, Vermont Public Radio, and the New York Times and is a member of the Amazon Studios Thought Leader Board and wrote the educational curriculum for Amazon Kids’ The Stinky and Dirty Show. She lives in New Hampshire with her husband and two sons and teaches in Vermont.

About Boulder Country Day School:
Boulder Country Day School is a top-rated, accredited private school where every child has the opportunity to discover his or her own unique excellence. Distinguished by small class sizes, outstanding faculty, rigorous curriculum and a focus on community, our preschool, elementary and IB middle school teachers strive to create a well-rounded educational environment that balances traditional subjects with the arts, world languages, athletics and project-based learning.


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